Links for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

Links for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

image source Today, October 15th, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. It's a difficult day for so many families because miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss are not uncommon. For most of my life I pushed the possibility of these painful events far to the edges of my mind. Probably out of fear because losing a chid is every parent's worst nightmare. But after walking with so many … [Read more...]

I Took a Month Off from Being a SAHM. Here’s What I Learned.

What I Learned from My "Month Off" from Being a Stay-at-Home Mom

photo source This summer I was feeling “sort of stretched--like butter spread across too much bread” in the words of Bilbo Baggins. And I was trying to figure out where my discontentment and general worn-out-ness was coming from. Because Daniel had a month off of work between his internship and his new job, we had the rare opportunity to switch around our family responsibilities. I left … [Read more...]

The Conversation We Have to Have with Our Kids

The Conversation We Have to Have with Our Kids

This post is sponsored by Covenant Eyes. My oldest child is seven years old. In a perfect world, I would not have to worry about protecting him from pornography. But, this is not a perfect world and I absolutely have to worry about it. But at age SEVEN? Surely, I don’t have to worry til my kids are teenagers, right? Recently, my friend Jenny shared a great series on her blog about porn … [Read more...]

Unrealistic Expectations, Anxiety Attacks, and Rediscovering the Joy of Motherhood

Unrealistic Expectations, Anxiety Attacks, and Rediscovering the Joy of Motherhood

My older brother likes to do this bit from a comedian whenever I tell him how tired I am from parenting. It’s about idea that being a mom is the hardest job in the world. The comedian lists off occupations requiring backbreaking and dangerous labor and then says, “Do Moms REALLY have the most difficult job on the planet? Bending at the waist to put those DVDs in DVD trays?” So when I plop in a … [Read more...]

Learning to Embrace My Strong-Willed Child’s Temperament

Learning to Embrace My Strong-Willed Child's Temperament

When my oldest kid was a newborn, he was extremely colicky. He cried for most of his first year and even when he wasn’t crying, he was still very high needs. His intensity startled me. Daniel and I are both pretty easy going, but our child was the opposite. I remember spending so much of that exhausting year trying to change my baby. If only I could turn him into the kind of baby that sleeps! … [Read more...]

What Lady Mary and the Proverbs 31 Woman Have That I Don’t

What I Need to Be a Better Wife and Mom

I grew up in the Bible belt. I heard a LOT about the Proverbs 31 Woman--the wife of noble character. I attended whole bible studies about this woman described in Proverbs that we should all model our lives after! She’s busily working for her family and brings honor to her spouse. And we have her to thank for that whole “charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the Lord, she … [Read more...]

We’re All Screwing Up Our Kids

We're All Screwing Up Our Kids

The other day I was telling a friend about some parenting challenges I was facing and how overwhelmed and inadequate I felt about mothering one of my kids. He said, “You know, I realized the other day that there is absolutely no way I won’t screw up my kids to some degree. It’s just going to happen. My parents are fantastic and I still have issues because of their parenting choices. My kids will … [Read more...]

5 Things That Make Mothering a Little Easier

5 Things That Make Mothering a Little Easier

I've shared before that while mothering is by far the most exciting role I've ever undertaken, it doesn't come easy to all. After feeling very successful in school and career pre-kids, the tasks of homemaking weren't just thankless but difficult. I am an extreme P when it comes to the P vs. J part of the Myers-Briggs personality test. That means keeping my home organized is not a … [Read more...]

10 Ways to Climb Out of a Really Bad Day of Mothering

10 Ways to Climb Out of a Really Bad Day of Mothering. How to turn a super crappy day around when parenting little ones!

You know those mornings that just start out all wrong? Whatever your expectations were.....they don't come to pass. Maybe you're woken up at 4:30 am by a child who just refuses to go back to sleep. Maybe you set your alarm and dragged yourself out of bed early to spend some quiet time with your cup of coffee and prayer only to hear little feet pitter pattering stomping like elephants down the … [Read more...]

“Have You Ever Felt Like Being a Mother Has Ruined You?”

Has Motherhood Ruined You?

“Have you ever felt like being a mother has ruined you?  Has brought out the absolute worst--from being a sensitive, emotional mess that will snap at the slightest challenging remark or unexpected turn in the day to making you seethe with anger and frustration all too often?   I feel like I used to be so good, so on top of everything, so "proficient." And here I am, on the eve of my son's … [Read more...]