Dear Madly-in-love Newlywed,
Your definition of sexy is about to change. It might take two years, it might take ten. And you’re not going to believe a word I say in these blissful days of butterflies in your stomach at the sound of his voice. It’s going to sound mundane and boring to you now, but just file this away.
What’s your definition of sexy? Getting surprise flowers from your beloved? Chocolate-covered strawberries on Valentine’s Day? A fancy date? The way he makes you laugh? The way it feels to have his arms around you? All that is great and you’ll still think it’s sexy a few years down the road, but it won’t hold a candle to the thrill of:
Your sweet husband cleaning out the fridge containing several tupperwares of leftovers that are now science experiments because you’re pregnant and nauseous and the very idea of stepping foot in the kitchen makes you gag.
When he tells you to put your feet up while he wrangles the preschooler and the toddler at the store to struggle through the week’s grocery shopping so you don’t have to.
Cleaning out the car where he finds several coffee mugs you should have brought inside days ago…and not mentioning it.
The way he makes the baby squeal with laughter by playing peekaboo after just walking in the house after a long day at work.
Trading his beloved quiet morning run for some laps around the neighborhood with the kids in the jogging stroller to give you an extra hour of sleep because he knows you were up all night with the nursing newborn.
That moment each night when he checks on your slumbering children before climbing into bed and you hear him kiss their sleeping foreheads.
It might sound mundane to you. And I suppose it is: these small, daily sacrifices of your life together. But it’s not boring. That kind of sacrificial love can’t be boring. The idea that this man who knows you so well, all of your flaws and weaknesses, is still willing to lay down his life for yours, to put his family first in things large and small, a million tiny deaths sacrificed for love….there is nothing sexier than that.
So enjoy these days of bliss and butterflies, but just know that it gets so much better as you learn to love each other through the daily grind of life. The honeymoon ends and the marriage begins and it’s more thrilling and exciting than you could ever have imagined. Your definition of sexy is about to change and you have everything to look forward to.